Tips for Straight Allies

Tips for Straight Allies

  • Don’t out LGBT friends to other people without their permission.
  • Know your local resources.
  • Don’t let your negative personal beliefs come before your friendship.
  • Don’t say any of the following things:
    • “We always knew.”
    • “But what about the straight crushes and relationships you had in the past?”
    • “You just haven’t met the right one yet.”
    • “We still love you anyway.”
  • Listen before you preach.
  • Get involved in LGBT advocacy.
  • Don’t reinforce stereotypes.
  • Don’t assume anything has changed because your friend came out, and don’t treat them differently.
  • Speak up against homophobia.
  • Refer to your straight boyfriend or girlfriend as “partner.”
  • Don’t assume that your LGBT friend has a crush on you.
  • For LGBT folks:
    • Don’t be heterophobic.
    • Support your straight allies!
    • Don’t assume that your straight friends will be homophobic or have malice toward you.